This is surprisingly one of my favorite songs on the album. It's a catchy upbeat song about a girl telling a guy how he gets the girl and then how he lost the girl.
On October 29th 2014, Taylor told Radio.com “The song ‘How You Get the Girl’ is a song that I wrote about how you get the girl back if you ruined the relationship somehow and she won’t talk to you anymore. Like, if you broke up with her and left her on her own for six months and then you realize you miss her. All the steps you have to do to edge your way back into her life, because she’s probably pretty mad at you. So it’s kind of a tutorial. If you follow the directions in the song, chances are things will work out. Or you may get a restraining order.”
Who is this song about?
Like many other songs on the album it's about Harry Styles. They first met and started dating in March 2012 at the Nickelodeon Kids Choice awards. She then saw him with another girl, hence how he lost the girl. He begged and begged for Taylor to take him back and six months later she did. I wonder if he really showed up at her door in the rain. For anyone that has listened to Taylor's music you know she has an obsession with doors and rain. (Someday I'll write a post on those two subjects.) He got her back but couldn't keep her. He "left her all alone/And never told her why". He left her all alone while they were on vacation in Virgin Gorda.
I really love the chorus maybe that's why it's one of my favorite songs. In it she is quoting what she would like the guy to say. Some of the language comes from marriage vows. "I want you for worse or for better, I would wait forever and ever." It shows what Taylor wants in a relationship, some commitment and long term love. I hope you find that Taylor, sorry it didn't happen with Harry!